Stepping away for a bit.

22 Apr

I will be stepping away for a bit. For I find that browsing endlessly in the manosphere has become a timesuck and is interfering with my uni work. So I will be gone for a bit.

So your Christian Wife Cheated on you Part 1

22 Apr

So Your Christian Wife Cheated on You – Part 1

So you are a Christian man, and you just found out your Christian wife cheated on you.  I’ve been there, man.  It is the worst feeling I’ve ever known.  I really feel awful for you.  When it happened to me, I literally felt like someone had reached in and torn the heart right out of my chest.  Before it happened, I used to read descriptions like that and think the person writing them was exaggerating, engaging in hyperbole.  No.  That is what it feels like.

First, take a deep breath.  Reflect on this for a second:  In brotherly love, your Lord, while you were still His enemy, gave His life as a sacrifice for you.  Because of Him, there is nothing that can now or ever separate you from the power, protection,  and fatherly love of Your Father in Heaven (Rom. 8:38-39).  God has your back.

Now, let me explain things to you like they are.  When it happened to me, there was almost nothing out there to give me Christian guidance on what to do about it.  Almost nothing.  And what was there, was, I discovered in retrospect, based on a false understanding of psychology and, even worse, a false understanding of Biblical marriage and sexuality.

Almost all the stuff I found was about a guy cheating, not the woman cheating.  This is despite the fact that female marital infidelity is a growing trend within the Christian community, one that the church refuses to deal with and likes to paper over.  In our society, women are almost as likely to cheat on their spouses as men, but there’s next to nothing out there to help a Christian man deal with that.

Which is why I wrote this.  It’s a little something to guide you through the process.  It may not be perfect, but it’s a heck of a lot more than you’ll get from Focus on the Family or other “Christian” institutions, many of whom have given themselves over to latent Christian feminism or faulty unbiblical views of marriage.  So calm down and pay attention.  Again, God has your back.  Trust me.  He had mine, even though it took me a long time to realize that.

A thousand may fall at your side
And ten thousand at your right hand,
But it shall not approach you.
–Psalm 91:7

The Devil is trying to get at you, to weaken your resolve to abide in quiet faith to your Lord and King.  But he isn’t trying to get at your marriage.  He already got at your marriage when he got at your wife.  There’s nothing you can do about that now.  You are his next target.  It might be possible for your marriage to continue, but realize the Devil already got it, and you’re now starting over.  But in this, remember the words of the famous hymn written by Martin Luther:

And though this world, with devils filled,
Should threaten to undo us,
We will not fear, for God hath willed
His truth to triumph through us.
The Prince of Darkness grim,
We tremble not for him;
His rage we can endure,
For lo, his doom is sure;
One little word shall fell him.

God’s got your back.

But now you have some homework:  Bible reading.  I suggest a regular daily dose of the three P’s:  Psalms, Proverbs, and Paul.

Psalms because David often writes of being under attack, and of God’s salvation and protection against that attack.  You are under attack, so you need the encouragement and strength of the Psalms as you struggle against the “principalties and powers” of the Devil.

Proverbs because there Solomon talks of the importance of wisdom.  You will need wisdom in your life more now than you ever have before.  Solomon also talks a great deal about how to avoid the wiles of a sexually immoral woman.  Your wife, as hard as it is to admit, is such a woman, and her wiles can be powerful, tearing you and your family down to please her sinful passions.  “For a prostitute’s fee is only a loaf of bread, but an adulteress goes after a precious life” (Prov. 6:26).  You need wisdom.

Paul because he was, as theologian F.F. Bruce called him, the “apostle of the heart set free.”  Paul is the apostle of joy, redemption, and hope.  And you need these three.  Ephesians and Colossians are good choices, since they focus on God’s eternal love for us and Christ’s pre-eminence, power, love, and glory.  Finally, I especially suggest regular reading and re-reading of Romans 8.

The three P’s are vital to success.  This was one area I personally lacked, and I wished I had been mindful of my P’s in order to help the healing process.

Now that you are hopefully in the right spiritual mindset, the next post in this series will focus on helping you get in the right emotional mindset.

Video

A showcase of obscure yet good metal bands.

21 Apr

Use this as a workout, inspiration song. Appreciate beauty even though there is much that is wrong with the world. Be thankful for the little things.

Video

The Christian pacifist fallacy. Why pacifism is not biblical.

21 Apr

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4FOEJhHQ3bc

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The Bechtloff Podcast

20 Apr

Aurini and Bechtloff discuss Churchianity and Geek culture and why red pill is needed in both areas and hence save civilization.

Video

Consumerism, Feminism and the Femocalypse

20 Apr

Listen to the man and learn and appreciate what he has to say.

The “Double Standard” Double Standard

18 Apr

One is not, in the Christian church, ever allowed to criticize sexual immorality in a woman.  This is an unwritten rule, the 11th commandment, enforced by what I call “the double standard” double standard.

It works like this:  Any time you point out that a woman is being sexually immoral, you will instantly get a reply from an exasperated Christian woman or a male Christian white knight, exclaiming, “But where are the men!  Why isn’t anyone talking about the men who sleep with these women?! Why is there this double standard?”

I agree: There is a double standard.  And it is based on the false perception of an opposite double standard.  People only ever decry a “double standard” when we talk about female sin.  Never when we talk about male sin.  This is itself the very definition of a double standard.

Everyone is saying “Why is no one talking about these men?!” Which, ironically, means everyone is talking about these men.   In fact, they only ever blame the man.  And if anyone mentions the woman shares equal blame, they then reply (after having already blamed the man), “But what about the men?!”

This is not only absurd, but logically fallacious.  Now, to this charge the feminist responds, “Logic is for boys.  They’re stupid.  Throw rocks at them.”

But for the rest of us who realize that logic is the reason we’re communicating with computers and iPads instead of still drawing pictures on cave walls, we see the fallacy immediately:  If A and B both engage in an immoral behavior, and I state that A is immoral for engaging in that behavior, this does not mean I am somehow stating that B is morally justified.  That is, simply because I say that Hitler was evil for murdering 6 million innocent Jews, doesn’t mean I’m excusing his junior officers.  Nor Neville Chamberlain for appeasing him.  Nor the German people for voting for him.  If I condemn Hitler, I am not at the same time justifying the Turks for the Armenian Genocide, or Stalin for his murderous purges.  Only an idiot would say that I am.

But they don’t teach logic in schools anymore.  It’s more important to teach young girls how to put condems(sic) on cucumbers.

In a later post I will explain why I believe this “double standard” double standard exists.

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